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Father Tying Daughter’s Shoe, Moullie Point Children’s Park, Cape Town, South Africa, Saturday March 09, 2013.

It’s in the little things, ja? That’s what caring is about. When you are done making the money or acting all manly, this is the stuff that defines their internal life, and ours. What defines what kind of uncaring or caring person they turn out to be. It’s taking time to play with your daughter … Continue reading

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Rough and Tumble Play is Good for Your Kids, I Think.

Aggressive, or what is better known as rough and tumble play, is an important element in kids’ psychological and social development. When moderated by attentive parents, R&T play teaches kids not only about the limits of aggression. In playing aggressively with a considerate parent a child also learns about intimacy. This understanding struck me with … Continue reading

Will you mount me, please? Or the possible relationship between levels of reported sexual violence and sexual activity among the ‘sexually unschooled’?
Boys / Girls / Masculinity / Men / Sexuality

Will you mount me, please? Or the possible relationship between levels of reported sexual violence and sexual activity among the ‘sexually unschooled’?

I am going out on a limb here. Please bear with me. I am thinking aloud, as one would say. This is a hypothesis. There is an apparent relationship between increased levels of sexual violence, in South Africa at least, and increased sexual activity in a society. The increased sexual activity is likely to be … Continue reading

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The Absence of Violence is the Result of Mutual Nurturance, not High Halls and More Policing

It is fact that many South African children are fatherless. The two main reasons for this are death and dumping. The reasons are connected to each other. Both arise out of and contribute towards the hegemonic form of masculine identity. Both are connected to a third reason still: the uncommonness of nurturing fathers and lack … Continue reading

Masculinity / Men / Violence

Masculine Fear and Bravado Don’t Mix Well with Gunpowder

This is a slightly altered piece of the one that appeared in the Sunday Independent of March 03, 2013.    Kopano Ratele and Mbuyiselo Botha   On Friday morning, 14 December, a young man called Adam Lanza went to Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newton, Connecticut, United States, and killed 20 children, all aged 6 or … Continue reading