Culture / Men / Tradition / Women

Only Women Who Lie Down to Show Respect and Shave their Armpits, Legs and Pubic Areas Need To Apply for Marriage

  Less than a week after exhorting South Africans to carry forward the legacy of Mandela and his belief and practice of gender equality, newspapers reported that President Zuma told of being impressed with how VhaVenda women show respect, saying were he not married to his four wives he would take a woman from the … Continue reading

Africa / African / Children / Culture / Tradition

Justice, Equality, Non-Sexism, Non-Racism, and Democracy Is What They Stood For – But Progressive Black Manhood Needn’t Mean Turning Into White Women in Drag

One of the ideals of the national freedom struggle in South Africa was to create a just, equal, non-sexist, non-racial, and democratic society. This is an ideal the Xhosa man of the abaThembu who became an international icon for progressive statesmanship and his fellow travelers stood for. We have not achieved that society yet. But … Continue reading

Africa / African / Culture / Tradition

Feelings and Thoughts of the Happiness of Seeming Opposites on Reconciliation Day, December 16 2013

Much has been said and written about the man. And much more will be in the days, weeks, months, and years to come. It’s exhausting. It’s energising. It’s depressing knowing how much a man and his comrades can do for you without you even recognising your debt for their sacrifice; how small, selfish, in your … Continue reading