Boys / Masculinity / Men / Movies / Sexuality

Feeling (the) Moonlight

Moonlight is a movie about a boy growing up black and closetted queerness/asexuality. It’s about boyhood and masculinity in the US. It’s about kin, biological and found. It’s about love from unexpected places and people. It’s about overt violence and microaggressions in schools. [And the all-black world of the movie makes this a must see … Continue reading

Africa / Gender / Girls / Sexuality

Malawian Woman Changes Sexually Repressive Customs

This story is worth sharing. The story was first reported last year in a number of African and international news outlets. It is still hope-restoring. It’s the story of Theresa Kachindamoto of Monkey Bay in Dedza District, Malawi. She is a custom-busting chief. She is a new hero of mine, and chiefs tend to make me nervous, although I have some kind of blood … Continue reading

Sexuality / Violence

Even as We Face Sexual Violence, Young (and Not So Young People) Still Need To Know Some Things Before Oral Sex

In November I posted this piece about “6 Things African Boys (and Grown Men) Need to Embrace About Masturbation”. The nub of the post was this video lesson from Gurl.com presented by presented by Cheyenne, who says she is from outside Los Angeles in the United States and has Mexican, Cuban and White American ancestry. … Continue reading

Boys / Education / Girls / Sexuality

6 Things African Boys (and Grown Men) Need to Embrace About Masturbation (As Told By Cheyenne, A Girl from Outside LA)

Here are 6 things African boys (and, I bet grown men too) need to, eh, embrace about masturbation. The lesson is presented by Cheyenne, a feminist girl from outside Los Angeles with Mexican, Cuban and White US heritage. It’s time I share this. Why? It’s educational and entertaining, that’s first reason. I like it, as I do other videos they do at … Continue reading

Blacks / Children / Class / Men / Sexuality

Money, Men, Women, Some Kind of Love

“Many rich black parents of the North make the mistake of associating their hard-earned economic freedom, with their children’s supposedly unquestioned entitlement to it. This misconception becomes dangerous when these elite black individuals raise their children – particularly their male children – with traditional ideas of manhood coupled with the constant spoon-feeding of money. This … Continue reading