Children / Fatherhood / Masculinity / Men

20 Photos That Depict True Modern Fatherhood

Doyin Richards shares photos that truly define fatherhood in today’s society. — Today’s dads are clueless, incompetent, emotionless buffoons who don’t know their asses from their elbows when it comes to childcare, right? Wrong. Dead wrong. Advertisements Continue reading

Children / Girls / Men

So that the World Can Be a Little More Kinder and a Little Less Prejudiced, Do Your Part

All of it – holding him in my arms, changing his nappies, rocking him to sleep, feeling bad with him when he is feeling bad, and feeding him; feeling scared when he has a high fever, taking him to the clinic for shots, bathing him, and potty training him; wiping his bum, playing with him, listening to him learn words, and all the other little things one does and experience when raising a child – opens my eyes and heart and mind and soul. Continue reading

Blacks / Boys / Fatherhood / Masculinity / Race / Violence / Whites

The Doomed Life of Happy Sindane

I can’t quite figure out why South Africa is fascinated with the death Happy Sindane. That was my earliest thought when I saw story after story of the end of Sindane. I know now, though, that is not what is going on in the coverage Sindane’s murder has received.   The question one should ask, … Continue reading

Children / Fatherhood / Images / Masculinity / Men

Father Tying Daughter’s Shoe, Moullie Point Children’s Park, Cape Town, South Africa, Saturday March 09, 2013.

It’s in the little things, ja? That’s what caring is about. When you are done making the money or acting all manly, this is the stuff that defines their internal life, and ours. What defines what kind of uncaring or caring person they turn out to be. It’s taking time to play with your daughter … Continue reading

Boys / Children / Class / Fatherhood / Gender / Masculinity / Men / Violence

The Absence of Violence is the Result of Mutual Nurturance, not High Halls and More Policing

It is fact that many South African children are fatherless. The two main reasons for this are death and dumping. The reasons are connected to each other. Both arise out of and contribute towards the hegemonic form of masculine identity. Both are connected to a third reason still: the uncommonness of nurturing fathers and lack … Continue reading

Men Who Speak With Fists: Pearlie Joubert
Gender / Masculinity / Men / Power / Violence / Women

Men Who Speak With Fists: Pearlie Joubert

Five years ago this month the journalist Pearlie Joubert wrote this article for the Mail & Guardian ( I met Pearlie for the first time last week. During our conversation slash interview slash ideas-storm about a project on “how to start a revolution”, she was reminded by something I said about the article and promised to send … Continue reading