Sexuality / Violence

Even as We Face Sexual Violence, Young (and Not So Young People) Still Need To Know Some Things Before Oral Sex

In November I posted this piece about “6 Things African Boys (and Grown Men) Need to Embrace About Masturbation”. The nub of the post was this video lesson from Gurl.com presented by presented by Cheyenne, who says she is from outside Los Angeles in the United States and has Mexican, Cuban and White American ancestry. … Continue reading

Children / Feminist / Masculinity / Men

Educating Men and Women on Creative Freedom

African countries, says Kopano Ratele, are weighed down by scores of problems. The oppression of women and girls is only one of these problems. However, the profeminist scholar cautions that masculine domination is not merely one among many problems, and not a problem for female and feminine subjects only. Instead, the subordination of women and girls, especially … Continue reading

Blacks / Children / Class / Men / Sexuality

Money, Men, Women, Some Kind of Love

“Many rich black parents of the North make the mistake of associating their hard-earned economic freedom, with their children’s supposedly unquestioned entitlement to it. This misconception becomes dangerous when these elite black individuals raise their children – particularly their male children – with traditional ideas of manhood coupled with the constant spoon-feeding of money. This … Continue reading

Masculinity / Men / Sexuality / Women

This Blog-post Can Help You Attract Straight White Women

Last weekend’s Sunday Times ran this ad for Volkswagen’s new Polo.  VW clearly do not see anything wrong with the ad. Half of the as is taken by these words: This car can help you attract women. Just drive it to places where there are women. And be really charming. The Sunday Times clearly didn’t see … Continue reading

Feminist / Gender / Masculinity / Men / Uncategorized / Women

Thoughts of Spending Time With Female Students Overwhelming To Male Student

This story, about a male student who took his professor to a human rights tribunal because the thought of being in a class full of females made him anxious, is amusing. Thank you to the folk at Southern Masculinities for bringing it to our attention. Finding it ‘very funny’ too, Professor Lindsay Clowes observes that ‘it raises all sorts of questions … Continue reading

Culture / Men / Tradition / Women

Only Women Who Lie Down to Show Respect and Shave their Armpits, Legs and Pubic Areas Need To Apply for Marriage

  Less than a week after exhorting South Africans to carry forward the legacy of Mandela and his belief and practice of gender equality, newspapers reported that President Zuma told of being impressed with how VhaVenda women show respect, saying were he not married to his four wives he would take a woman from the … Continue reading

African / Blacks / Boys / Children / Gender / Girls / Government / Health / Masculinity / Men / Sexuality / Violence / Women

Why Over 36 000 School-Girls Fell Pregnant in 2010 and What To Do About It

Last year I wrote on the South African National Department of Basic Education’s Report on the ‘2009-2010 Annual Surveys for Ordinary Schools’ in the post “Wouldn’t it Make Girls’ Lives Happier and Richer if We Gave Boys an Education That Makes Them More Caring About Girls’ Aspirations”. The 2010-2011 Schools Report was released at the … Continue reading